September 🍂 I’m so ready for sweaters, hot drinks and cosy evenings ☕ as September is my birthday month, in true Virgo fashion I reflected on my year and made some lists (obviously.) 📝 I'm not going to share them this time, hopefully I'll be sharing the results soon. But, I will share some lessons I have learnt, read and resonated with this year. Here's a reminder to myself, and a... List, for you. We all love lists, right? Right... ? 🤓
• Criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling and contempt occur during moments of lost compassion (toward yourself and others.)
• Whether or not it matters in five minutes or five years, feel what you feel.
• There's no point in asking yourself, “What can I do to relax?” Instead, ask, “What do I need to feel safe?”
• Only those who care about you can hear you when you’re quiet.
• If they don’t chase you when you walk away, keep walking.
• No level of exercise, sleep or eating right can create the wellness and vitality of secure attachment and emotional belonging.
• The point of "doing nothing" is to clear up our inner lives. There is so much that happens to us every day, so many excitements, regrets, suggestions and emotions that we need to spend time processing them.
• Popular self-love culture stigmatises our desire for human connection and intimacy, but our idolisation of independence is at the expense of our need for interdependence.
• If I text "haha nice" it means I'd rather be dead than continue this conversation.
• No one sees what you see, even if they see it too.
• Walk away from anything that makes you disrespect yourself.
• Rigidity is often a sign that there is a wound underneath. Notice where you are closed off to change. Notice where it’s your way or the highway. Notice where you are inflexible. Rigidity often feels like a holy righteousness but when we dig deeper we often find a fear that if we bend, we will break.
• You have a right to know what someone's intentions are with you. Anything that may affect your mind, body and spirit, ask.
• It’s been said that when INTJs get hurt or angry, "they don’t hate you, they nothing you." I am somewhere between ENTJ and INTJ, but I am this. [continued in comments]
